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welcome to "Love Guru", Tamil's first relationship 
coaching channel

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hi, I'm your relationship coach XXX

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till now we saw about nice guys, their behaviors, 
why they rejected by girls, you're what type 
in alpha male series

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from now, we'll see about how to convert 
from nice into strong guy

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then how to change into a alpha male from 
being a strong guy

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so now we'll see how we can change from nice 
guy into strong guy

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it's possible by removing the characteristics 
of a nice guy

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then we can change into a strong guy

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those characteristics we're removing today 
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'Pleasing behaviour' that's nothing but

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making others happy, first of all why we 
need this?

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if we do that so they will love us back and 
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the validation we need, why are we doing 
this?

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because nice guys thinking that they can't 
live alone

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and they want approval from others for being 
a good man

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so they search validation from others

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they also think that their life is only worth 
if any girl loves them

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I'll give a example,

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one father is taking her daughter to park 
every day

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the reason he doing this was,

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he want others in the park to think like, 
"he is a good father and he raising his child 
well"

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and he want to hear that, by doing this

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he searches validation for a good father, 
listen he tries to be happy by getting validated 
by others

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this is very weak behaviour, we need to validate 
ourselves

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so we need to decide, if we are good or bad

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we need to think it's unwanted to get validation 
from others

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this is a strong behaviour, I'll tell you 
an another example

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nice guys will do the extra work gave by 
their co-workers

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they're like fools and think that

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"to get a good validation from him, I need 
to do his work"

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and hoping that he will work for him in future 
and they blindly do their friend's works

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just understand, he won't even care a hair 
for you

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they will use this as a opportunity to load 
their work to our hands

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these are all happening due to one mistakes 
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they can't live independently

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they will please others as they believe that 
they need to depend on others

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and they try to impress others

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just understand this is the difference between 
a nice guy and a strong guy

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nice guy think that he can't live alone and

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and a strong guy will think that he is enough 
for himself and won't require others

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okay how to get rid of this pleasing behaviour

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if you use the 4 tricks Im saying

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then you'll get rid of this nice guy behaviours

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we'll see about those 4 tricks

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no 1 : Spending time alone

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for few days isolate yourself, ask questions 
like, what I want?,

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what is right for me?, what will make me 
happy?

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think about those things, if you practice 
this isolation

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that will make you belive that you can be 
alone without needing anyone

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"we need nobody",

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that emotion will prove that you can live 
happily without anyone

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so we won't impress others due to this

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and won't please anyone also

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no 2: Taking care of ourself

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first of all, the reason we're trying to 
impress others is we think that we're worthless

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we'll need someone to say that we're worthy 
person

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so first of all we need to prove that we're 
worth to ourselves

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for that we need to exercise daily, eat healthy 
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wear good dress, shoes and have good hairstyle

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then make yourself look good

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if you saw yourself good at the mirror

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then it will improve your confident very 
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this will make yourself worthy, so by this

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we don't need to impress or please others

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no 3: Affirmation helps

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you may heard about the thory of law of attraction

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it states that, whatever thing you may think 
or say frequently that thing will be

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happen as this universe will make that for 
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scientists have discovered many things, but

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they many claim that law of attraction is 
the best among those

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so, always say "I'm the best","I'm a strong 
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"I'm a confident man and I love myself so 
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repeat these words frequently

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after some time, your character will change 
depending upon the words you say, without 
your knowledge

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so automatically you will become a strong 
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confident guy and will love yourself

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then you can independent

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no 4: revealing ourself

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the issue with nice guys is, they think that 
if we show our true characters to others

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they won't love us, and they make a fake 
character to love

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and impress others, so first of all

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you need to be bold and tell your true character 
with your friends

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tell your friend, if you have porn addiction

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he may also reply that he has that addiction

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tell a girl that you will drink once in a 
week and she'll ask you to buy drinks

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if you tell your parents taht you'll speak 
bad words

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then they will tell you to reduce that and 
will support you

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if we tell our true character to others

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then they will surely love us

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if we know that others love us for our true 
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then we'll never impress others with lies

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in small age I'll use the trick were I'll 
speak bad words in the middle of the road

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there will be girls, aunties in the road

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I did that because others may think wrong 
about me, I don't care

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my parents feed me, so I don't care about 
others opinions

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I can show my tru colours boldy, I did it 
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I need no one, I can live happily without 
others

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I wanted to prove it to myself so I did that

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I became really independent, so if you use 
this 4 tricks

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you will easily get rid off that pleasing 
behaviour

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in the beginning it may be uncomfortable 
for you to follow these tricks

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but, if you follow these for 3 months then

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you'll surely get out from this pleasing 
behaviour

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