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welcome to love guru girls channel, I'm your 
relationship coach love guru

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please ignore the tone of my voice

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sunday I had relationship workshop for boys, 
so

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my voice is ruined, this is my phone consultation 
client's story, she is a girl and she says 
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she had love marriage, she loved him for 
2 years and married for 1 year

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there is no issues in normal time, but during 
fights

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many issues happens, that man beats her like 
a dog, use bad words and he behaved like 
a psycho

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he is beating her so much that she went to 
hospital , she also can't lose him

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because she loved him so much and her kin 
and kith are saying that

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it's better to divorce him, she was confused

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that boy suddenly says that he won't use 
violence aginst her and requested her to 
stay with him

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she trusted that, but after some days he 
behaved in same way and even more worse this 
time

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and she was totally traumatised now

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she is not sure about reforming him or giving 
him a divorce

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she asked that, so girls this is my topic, 
ehat is the solution for this

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can you allow your partner to hit you or 
use bad words against you?, the next thing 
I'm going to say will be the right answer

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actually, you may saw the movie called 'Arjun 
Reddy'

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they remade that movie in Hindi as 'Kabir 
Singh', tnat movie faced backlash from media

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that is, the hero and director of the movie

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promotes male chauvinism, may criticism are 
there

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so it has same accusation of beating and 
swearing at partner

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that director said one reply, that is the 
important point

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he said that, "If I couldn't hit my partner, 
if I couldn't use any cuss words on my partner, 
I don't see there is any love in it"

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he is saying that if he can't hit his partner

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if he can't use cuss words against her then 
he can't able to see love in that

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yes, why he said that,

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there is some boundary there, there is some 
privacy betweeen two

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love is something that we don't have a privacy 
when two people are together

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girls be clear, being limitless with a person 
is called love

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if you can't hit are curse your partner then 
there is some boundary, privacy and it's 
not love

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many will tell I'm a male patriarchist

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I'm not like that, my partner has same freedome 
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swearing and beating me, does it means she 
will hit me

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I will try to kiss and compromise her...

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she has all rights of me, and same goes for 
all women

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that is called love, there is a limit, scolding 
and hitting is fine

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slightly pain giving hits are okay, but hitting 
like psycho

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is not fine, it maybe boy or girl

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some may argue that girls are not that much 
violent, I saw girls who beat boys like kovai 
sarala

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so girls, slightly pain giving bumps is okay

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beating like a psycho is wrong

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in that time those people can't control their 
emotions

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this is a problem ofcourse

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during that time in someday they will cross 
their emotion

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and they have a chance of killing you in 
the process

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I never say that they will kill you, but

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they may kill you with the chance of 10%

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so never take risk in this case

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if he is like a psycho or emotionally unstable, 
then do dump him

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searching another guy will be the best solution

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or if you're bound to the marriage or long 
lasted relationship

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girls this is the only solution and this 
is hard

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when he will control his emotions depends 
on when you turn into higher value

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but the issue is to learn about higher value 
itself

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take one year and you need to change then

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learning will take one year and changing 
will also

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take some time, if your age is 25 and

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you are in normal value for 25 years and 
do you turn into higher value in a single 
day?

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never, even if learned for a year

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it will take even one more year for you to 
turn higher value

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after you doen that he will gradually control 
his emotions

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but it won't happen in an instant

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be clear if his age is 25 years

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and he can't change himself in a single day

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even if you're a higher value girl now, it 
will take one more year for him to have control

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so it will take 3 years, if you truly love 
him take your time

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but there is small risk that is the 10% risk 
in first 2 years

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he may do soemthing bad to you, some girls 
are there

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who can't turn into higher value even if 
you teach each and every step

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that's their nature and if you be like that 
he won't reform himself

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and he will beat you like a psycho for life 
and it's a major risk

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so better quit that relationship

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if you want to make your crush to love you, 
solve your relationship issue, get back your 
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